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Experienced Poly Female Top seeking a submissive or curious man who sincerely wishes to serve. Polite and respectful inquiries welcome. Prefer local to Fort Collins/Denver area.. Open-mindedness required. You should be a NON-smoker. This is not negotiable!
About Me ?I discovered the BDSM lifestyle about 11 years ago. I am technically married, but emotionally single. We no longer live together and it?s just a matter of sorting out the finances and filing the paperwork. We are amicable, and although he knows, he does not share my lifestyle interests. I was originally attracted to BDSM as a submissive, but over time and emotionally-complex life lessons, have come to embrace my Sadistic Dominant nature. I understand your strong desire to be pleasing and inspire happiness in Another through service and suffering. Your willingness to obey and offer yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally is a HUGE sexual turn-on for me, when we combine that with mutual admiration and respect.
To me polyamory is about letting a relationship develop naturally and to its fullest potential. "Relationship for me implies personal, emotional and spiritual intimacy as well as the physical." I do not consider myself a 'swinger' because it?s rare (if ever) that my sexual desires are the influential aspect of my decision-making process.
I am always seeking self-improvement and insight. I get along best with others of similar character. Seeing the benefits of Ruiz's 4 Agreements, I try to A) be impeccable with my word, B) not take things personally, C) not assume, and D) always do my best. Knowledge is power, and security is having faith (in yourself); that you can be flexible and handle whatever life tosses your way. I am a firm believer of personal choice, responsibility and accountability. We are where we are, by our own choices.
I have a bit of a sadistic streak, and am very 'hands-on'. "Touch" is my primary language. I take the responsibility for my submissives? health and well-being (physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually) as a serious commitment. That doesn?t mean I?m a mind reader, nor does it relieve you of your similar responsibility to me. We are Yin and Yang; opposite sides of the same coin. We embrace, support and enhance each other?s experiences.
I?m a skilled communicator. I recognize the necessity of being proactively open and honest. (even when the situation is uncomfortable and difficult). I also recognize the responsibility of being a good listener. After all, it?s hard for someone to communicate with you, if you aren?t receptive, or respond with blame and accusations. I?m very emotionally grounded and able to maintain open dialogue under the most stressful of situations. This was a skill acquired by completing a tumultuous ?trial by fire?. Ultimately it was one of the most liberating experiences of my life. I seek soul connections with those on a similar path.
Submission is not a passive activity; your realization of the desire to please Me will be a delightful awakening. I understand that respect is earned, but I do not waste my time engaging in power struggles. I will not "over power you", but Revel in your voluntary submission. Your ability to 'suffer beautifully' for Me, is an active talent which I truly appreciate. Your first priority when we are together should be mindfulness of my pleasure. This does not mean you don't have your own opinions. Together we will create our own, unique experience.
Sometimes I like to Drive, sometimes I like to be chauffeured...you should be capable of pleasing Me (or at least make a valiant attempt) without being micromanaged every second. Your creative service will be rewarded!
From a physical perspective I have dangerous curves. I am not a BBW; but in no way resemble a stick. Think Marilyn Monroe.

Cancer

Curvy

5' 5 (1.65 m)

Green

Caucasian

No

Not Sure

Eyes

Strategically Placed Tattoo

Auburn / Red

No

University Degree

Full-time

Medical / Health

With Pet(s)

All Is Calm

Thoughtfullness